Wrapped Up in Love: Wedding Theme Music Part One “Sailing Through the Sea/To an Island Where We’ll Meet”

As we moved across the Pacific Ocean there was a song playing in my head: “Lucky” by Jason Mraz and Colbie Caillat. I heard it over and over again while we were planning the wedding. So much that it became one of our wedding theme songs, as if “Getting Married on Catalina” was its unofficial name. The lyrics rang so true “I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend/Lucky we’re in love in every way.” Watch the music video below.

(sorry for the annoying ad, by the way)

While the lyrics are a little bit more about longing and rejoining each other than applies to us, here they are for a read.

[Jason Mraz]
Do you hear me,
I’m talking to you
Across the water across the deep blue ocean
Under the open sky, oh my, baby I’m trying

[Colbie Caillat]
Boy I hear you in my dreams
I feel your whisper across the sea
I keep you with me in my heart
You make it easier when life gets hard

[Both]
I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
Ooohh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh

[Both]
They don’t know how long it takes
Waiting for a love like this
Every time we say goodbye
I wish we had one more kiss
I’ll wait for you I promise you, I will

[Both]
I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
Lucky we’re in love in every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday

[Jason]
And so I’m sailing through the sea
To an island where we’ll meet
You’ll hear the music fill the air
I’ll put a flower in your hair

[Colbie]
Though the breezes through trees
Move so pretty you’re all I see
As the world keeps spinning round
You hold me right here right now

[Both]
I’m lucky I’m in love with my best friend
Lucky to have been where I have been
Lucky to be coming home again
I’m lucky we’re in love in every way
Lucky to have stayed where we have stayed
Lucky to be coming home someday

Ooohh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh
Ooooh ooooh oooh oooh ooh ooh ooh ooh

Wrapped Up in Love: All Aboard the Catalina Express

Catalina Express Long Beach Terminal

We caught a cab from Long Beach’s low key airport to the Catalina Express terminal. Mr. Pashmina and I went in the cab with the two pre-teens and it was so fun seeing their reaction to experiencing California for the first time. They were in awe of all the palm trees, how wide the freeways were–and that they were free!

Catalina Express

We met my mom, sister, and nephew at the Catalina Lounge, ready to set board the Catalina Express all together. Waiting for the captain to call for us to get on the boat was something akin to waiting in line for Disneyland. We were so excited!

Mr. & Miss Pashmina

Wrapped Up in Love: Catalina Island Adventure

We began our Catalina Island adventure in New York City. The first “scene” was picking up the dress from the bridal shop just minutes before it closed. I ended up staying late at work to finish up a few details before our two week vacation-wedding.

The Gown Ready to Travel Across Land, Air & Sea.

My husband picked me up with our best man as our driver. He raced down NYC’s Amsterdam Avenue from the Upper West Side only to hit major Midtown traffic. Then after barely making the cutoff to get my wedding dress by a few minutes my co-worker called. We left my niece’s bridesmaid dress at work. I had picked up from the tailor during my lunch break earlier in the day. So we promptly made a U-turn! But the real excitement came the next morning.

Have you ever seen the getting-to-the-airport scene in the movie Home Alone? There are so many people to get ready that something–or someone–major is missed. That was how our morning was. Our driver overslept and did not pick us up. We were too busy getting ourselves ready to notice. All of us ended up on the curb late, then scratching our heads: “Wait, where is our van?” After a few too many phone calls we ended up on course, an hour and a half later than expected.

When we got to the airport we barely made the 1 hour until departure cut off. Then came getting everyone through security. The older generations didn’t understand why they need to take off their shoes, and why couldn’t they bring in an unopened water bottles when they would be thirsty and “you know how expensive buying at the airport is.” Then came the issue with the young one.

When all eleven of us finally got to the gate and were ready to board we hit our final road block. As each of us presented our ticket and boarded the plane, one board pass was not there. Some how my sister-in-law misplaced one of the tickets for the little ones. My sister-in-law franticly went to retrace her steps while the rest of us boarded the airplane without her. My last view of her was going down to ticketing with an airline staff member. And in the most dramatic moment, about five minutes after the last person boarded–she showed up!

Flying to Long Beach, CA

Finally, all of us together, heading to our wedding across the country. From New York City’s crowded JFK airport to California’s beautiful and rustic Santa Catalina Island! As we set out for this experience of a lifetime we were nothing but smiles. We knew that this was going to be a super fun–yet not with out obstacles–family adventure. The Pashmina’s “Wrapped Up in Love” wedding recaps now begin!

On the Plane and Ready to Wed.

Pregnant? One Month Until the Wedding!

After two clearblue easy tests, this one was conclusive: pregnant!

On July 2, 2010 we found out we were pregnant with a Little Pashmina.

Surprised? We were! Well, a little bit.

I went to the pool to clear my head. Here, I am on the elevator about to see my husband. Can you see the giddy excitement as I am trying to put on a straight face?

The next thirty days leading up to the wedding were a whirlwind. They say that when you are pregnant you become forgetful–absentminded, as your body’s way to simplify your life and focus on growing a baby. That pretty much sums my experience up. I left so much to do close to the date. And pregnant amnesia, that pretty much applies to the wedding. It was really like a daydream!!

You probably have noticed that I have been putting off my wedding day recaps. We got married way over a year ago, almost two! I can’t believe it has been so long! But now you know main reason. I just couldn’t explain my wedding experience without including this major fact. So how could I write my recaps? I was preggers and no one knew.

But before you offer your congratulations let me say that it isn’t good news. It wasn’t a successful pregnancy. I was absolutely thrilled about starting a family. But one week before we flew out to Catalina Island for our wedding we had our first baby appointment at seven weeks along. There, we found out that our little sesame seed wasn’t the blueberry it should have been. It was one week smaller than it should be. Then three days before we left, at a high-risk sonogram, the doctor noticed that the little one had a faint heart beat.

We left for the wedding knowing that there was more than a 50% chance that during our wedding I would most likely miscarry. And away from home, away from my doctor. I prayed and prayed nothing would happen. Each day went by and I still had terrible morning sickness…and that was a good sign. I thought things were developing. The wedding week went and passed. Then the next, our honeymoon week. Still no blood, no spotting, no miscarriage.  Two days after we returned from our honeymoon I had a follow-up appointment. I couldn’t wait to hear the great news: there was no need for concern and everything had worked itself out–the baby had caught up. But unfortunately, before the doctor spoke I read the news all over her face. There was no heartbeat.  No more baby. It had died as thought, sometime two weeks before. Maybe even on our wedding day. I was ten weeks.

And so…Little Pashmina no longer.

I had something called a “missed miscarriage.” My body thought everything was fine and carried on thinking it was pregnant–there were no signs for me to tell that it stopped developing. This became problematic because something was dead inside me and wasn’t gotten rid of by itself. And it was for longer than the doctors would like. Within 24 hours after my appointment finding out the bad news I went into surgery. I had a D&C to remove the tissue that my body still hadn’t expelled. It took me a month to feel okay. Two months to feel back to my old self physically.

My world crumbled. I went from so excited about getting married and about the next phase our lives to sadness. Trying to process all this in the pre-wedding days in a new location with all our extended families knowing nothing. Then having surgery after I was sure things were fine. Then the bad news got compounded at post-surgery check up. They thought that something was wrong. I had an “unidentified mass.” Either due to complications due to the miscarriage or that led to the miscarriage. For four months my life was filled with dozens of office visits, two months of reproductive specialists, and a visit to an oncologist. Our first half a year as a married couple was overrun by procedures and a strong possibility of major surgery. This would not allow me to carry another baby for two years.

My mind kept on racing, “would I ever even be able to have a baby?” Witnessing all the women at the reproductive endocrinologist made me think that it really doesn’t happen as easily as you are lead to believe. We try to protect ourselves from the chance of it happening for so long. But then what is unspoken for so many people is that it is hard to get pregnant, and even harder to keep it. I didn’t realize. It is just not talked about.

But then my luck changed. All of a sudden my body worked everything out! All tests started coming out normal!  No more mass. Everything was fine! It just took a couple of months!

Really, bodies are amazing.

So bear with me hive! It is my 2nd wedding anniversary on the 31st. Take my word for it. Yes, there are posts on the way. Posts showing our beautiful destination wedding on Catalina Island, really a magical isle. You must see how much fun we had. How beautiful it was. And how our planning really didn’t matter–what mattered was that we were getting married!

On a side note: I toyed with the idea of writing this post for a long time. Yeah, almost two years (so please be nice and don’t judge me). That is why I have really been dragging my feet. I finally decided that it would be better to write it then to pretend that everything has been okay.

In actuality we didn’t have the wedding we planned for 15 months. Things fell apart because I just couldn’t do it, because I didn’t feel well due to morning sickness, and because nothing was as important as what I was going through.  Right at the time that I had to do the most for the wedding I couldn’t. So many projects got left undone. Then I was so depressed because of impending miscarriage during the wedding week. Then the scare of surgery after the wedding didn’t allow me really reflect on the experience of the wedding itself. But that is life. Really, that is how things go. All the prep you do never means that things will go as expected. Life is unexpected. Life is full of challenges.

But I don’t want to be too much of a downer. We did have a great time at the wedding!! We both tried our hardest to forget about it, and at times we really did. The wedding was a blast! Much more fun then I could have ever imagined. Really, besides being super forgetful and sick I felt okay. I did think things were progressing with the pregnancy. It was right after the wedding that things got super sad! This was result of the miscarriage, and on top of that the complications. I never knew anyone that miscarried. Or I didn’t think I did. But they say 1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage so it is something that you need to be prepared for. It was a very scary and a very sad time in my life. Pretty much one of the lowest.

But what can you do? Life goes on, and so must The Pashminas. And for those of you who follow my Twitter, I am sure you know that things have really, really, looked up! We got pregnant 5 months after our wedding, just a month after getting the green light. On September 28th our baby boy was born. We call him our miracle baby, but it wasn’t a miracle–it was meant to happen.

XXXOOO,
-Mrs. Pashmina / The Bohemian Bride

15 Months of Planning = A Big Relief!

Photography by Marion Jameson

Getting married is a lot of work! It takes months of research, hours of planning, perhaps a few fights, and the coordination of so many people. So when it finally happens it is like bursting a piece of bubble wrap–it is awesome and so rewarding!! I can’t wait for all of you to experience it!!! Ours was the perfect celebration! But it wasn’t perfect because nothing went wrong. Oh no, we had our issues. But I didn’t let those parts interfere. It was perfect because in its entirety it succeeded my expectations. And that is a very nice feeling!

The most unexpected greatness…it was fun! Really, why did I not realize how fun it would be? I guess because I was so obsessed for 15 months of my life planning it. I almost didn’t even try to picture how the experience of it would be. I guess I didn’t want to get my hopes up or have a vision that wouldn’t match the real thing. I am so glad I stopped all that Type A personality stuff!! Once I got to the island I just let things be as there were. So this is my hope for you too. Don’t worry so much or freak out about things. Have fun!! Revel in its specialness.

And ours did feel so very special! I literally felt the energy of all of us coming together on magical island. It was everything I love about weddings and nothing I’ve always hated about them. But I guess that is part of it…it felt so very, very us! My husband says it was “quaint, romantic, and intimate.” And it was! A dinner party with dancing for 65 of our closest loved ones, a mediterranean courtyard filled with aromatic herbs, and the warm Californian sun shining down on us–two people madly in love! It was wonderful! (Can you tell I still have the glow of a newlywed!)

So let the recaps begin!! I can’t wait to tell you about the events leading up to the wedding and some of the details I didn’t get a chance to tell you about before.

Double Bachelorette Party

Las Vegas is all about living large! So how can a bachelorette party be supersized Las Vegas style? How about a DOUBLE bachelorette party with TWO Weddingbee bloggers! That is right, double your pleasure, double your fun! Miss Hot Wings and I flew in out Friday night for a whirlwind party that lasted less than 48 hours–but the memories will ((sniff)) last a lifetime! This is what happened:

After meeting up at the airport and finding my sister we shared a cab to our MGM suite. Greeted by two of our best college friends and Miss Hot Wing’s sister-in-law-to-be we quickly noticed the extras in our room. Penis shaped cutouts everywhere! In the kitchen, next to the mirror…it was then that it really dawned on me.

The bachelorette party weekend was about to begin! After putting on some fresh clothes and a little makeup us gals headed out towards The Strip. There we found a lounge without a cover (yes!) with an awesome coverband–so perfectly called The Jukebox Band–talking into the wee hours of the morning.

The next morning we headed out to the MGM pools. If you haven’t been the pool complex feels straight out of MTV’s spring break. I never experienced anything like it. It is like Raging Waters for adults. 5 pools, loud music, a lazy river, and lots of alcohol. A recipe for fun! The pool was definitely one my favorite aspects of the weekend. After lounging around we headed back up to the room to get ready for The Bachelorette Party which included dinner, games and going out to the clubs.

A few months before we decided we wanted to have a 1920s flapper theme party. Miss Hot Wing’s Maid-of-Honor organized the party and so thoughtfully arranged it so we would all wear matching outfits. The brides wore white sequin dresses with custom made (by her) black birdcage veils. While the other ladies wore black dresses and custom made red and black feather headbands. And of course we all wore coordinating feather boas! I never felt so sexy or so bridal! One of the best things about coordinating outfits–besides looking damn sexy and quickly picking your girls out of the crowd–is that people instantly knew you were part of bachelorette party. I highly recommend it.

For dinner, of course we had hot wings from Hooters in honor of Miss Hottie! And directly after the games began! Some of the games we played were “Pin the Member on the Man,” “How Quickly Can You Suck a Shot Out of a Penis Straw,” and my personal favorite “Who’s Panties Are They?” (Yes, I totally made up these names..?!) My fav was the panty game. A week before the trip we were emailed asking to bring a pair of panties in the brides’ size that represent you. These were secretly stashed in containers by our host and Miss Hot Wings and I had to guess what panties represented each lady in attendance. It was totally fun and does give you great insight into the psychology of your friends. Whose essence is the lime green snake skin silk thong? Who is the flirty, fun, and sporty with the Pink briefs by Victoria Secret? Who is sexy and sophisticated with the black lace thong and crystal detailing? …you gotta guess it!

After the games we headed out to the Wynn Encore to the club XS. It was what I call a “mega club” as in mega cool! A packed dance floor, a pool to splash in, and sexy men to look at! And the best part? We had more games to play.

Have you ever heard of the game “That Guy”? You have a deck of cards that has types of guys on them, and dares relating to them. Our rules were that each girl had a number of cards and who ever completed them first one. In order to complete the challenge you had to either bring the guy over to the group and/or take a picture with him. Some of the most entertaining cards were the dares to “ask a guy for a condom” and “find a guy wearing a vest and make him wear it without a shirt.”

And that was our crazy bachelorette weekend! It felt sooo good to be in the company such amazing girlfriends. Their laughter and energy has really refreshed me and given me strength to carry on this wedding maddness. And it was amazing having a DOUBLE bachelorette party. That night we both were twins! And I loved sharing this moment–I’d have it no other way!!

A Few Changes

Images from Weddingbee.com

Some of you may run across one or two post with some changes. I might as well tell you why: I’ve become a Weddingbee blogger!! I’m so excited about it. Weddingbee, if you haven’t heard of it–is a blog dedicated to all-things weddings that features a couple dozen brides through their planning process. And I am one of the lucky girls! Come chat, get inspiration, give advice. It is a blog so it is fueled by us!

So check me out, Miss Pashmina on Weddingbee!

Top 2010 Wedding Sites to Follow

I am pretty wedding obsessed. I don’t know how it would be if I didn’t have the Internet. Well, actually, for a while (at the beginning of my engagement) I didn’t have the Internet, so I know how it is without the Internet — and it was terrible! With just a click of a button you are linked to all these ideas, beautiful pictures, answers to your questions. The Internet is a wonderful thing! As a techno-geek, and a destination bride planner, I rely on the Internet for so much.

So here are a few of my favorite site for 2010. As I get busier I have less and less time to check them. So I figured I might share with you, Boho Brides. I have “Wedding” bookmark list on my Safari web browser so I usually just click from one to the other. I hope you enjoy! Happy clicking!!

The Mainstays

Syle Me Pretty

Once Wed

100 Layer Cake

The Magazines

InStyle Wedding

Martha Stewart Weddings

Southern Weddings

Pacific Wedding

Brides

The Knot

The Wedding Planners

What June Bug Loves

la partie events

The Photographers

Jessica Claire

Jose Villa

Bride to Bride

Weddingbee

The Florists

Amy Osaba

Succulent Love Designs

The Foodies

{frolic}

Sunday Suppers

The Untraditionalists & Wedding Obsessed

Rock ‘n Roll Bride

Offbeat Bride

Earth Friendly Weddings

Flights of Fancy

Green Wedding Shoes

why this ring, I thee obsess

Snippet & Ink

Erin Ever After

The Designers

h i p . i t . u p

Apartment Therapy

Alana Bailey Brand News

Design*Sponge

My Weddingbee Application

Last week I applied to become a Weddingbee Blogger — a featured blogger who will report on all aspects of her wedding planning and production. Weddingbee is a staple source of information for all brides-to-be. Why do I want to become a Weddingbee blogger? Well it all began with me reading Miss Cowboy Boots’s post on her wedding day hairstyle trial appointment–pictures of what options she was considering, what she liked, and about the experience of deciding what to wear. With this one post it made me think–people are like me! Carefully exploring their options, needing feedback, and really excited about this event in their life! So, after submitting my application I am crossing my fingers and hoping the Weedingbee reviewers will visit my site!