Groomsmen Attire

Finding the perfect groomsmen outfit was harder than finding bridesmaid dresses! Much harder. After visiting Men’s Warehouse and trying on suits we realized we didn’t want a tuxedo. It was going to be too stiff, too heavy, and too much for a more casual outdoor wedding. The problem with was finding a suit that would work.

Rental stores are so good because they have different styles in stock, purchasing is less time sensitive–the three month turn over in mall stores becomes even more of a rush when trying for a hard to find size–and really, it requires minimal effort from the dudes. There is a clerk that knows what they need once they drop the wedding party’s name so they aren’t left to hunt for the right things all by themselves. Typically getting the guys to the rental store and on time is something that us brides go crazy trying to coordinate! And rightfully so!!

Our pick for the groomsmen

We tried to find a seersucker suit or a more casual tan suit at a rental store. But to no avail. We tried the main department stores but everything was too expensive to ask our groomsmen to purchase (we were already asking them to travel across the country so we wanted minimal cost). We looked at H&M, Zara, and UNIQLO trying to find low price items–and we did, but not in the range of sizes we needed (darn international slim sizes!).

We found our perfect outfit at a regular mall store called Express. It was exactly the style we wanted and it feel within the $150 or less budget we were hoping for. It was a seersucker vest and pants. I absolutely loved the seersucker vest look for the country club! It was perfect! We tried to take advantage of what the boys already had like white dress shirts and casual white shoes to save them money as well.

Image from Express

Below is a letter we sent to our groomsmen (originally with links but now outdated).


Hey Groomsmen,
Here is what you should do while stores are stocked this month:
1. Sign up for a “15% off your next purchase” coupon
2. Purchase the following groomsmen attire (in-store or online)

Basically the outfit is a vest, pants, and white shirt (picture of the outfit is attached–we are not wearing ties).





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We sent this in April–you would think they wouldn’t wait until July to buy!! Well they did–well, two of them did and that screwed everything up! That left me in panic mode. Three groomsmen had the entire outfit. But one of them now couldn’t fit into his vest.  One person only bought the pants and (in July) couldn’t find a vest. The bestman didn’t buy a thing thinking that we would automatically buy his since he was the “best” man. So we were down three vests, one pant.

For one entire weekend I bought every single seersucker vest I could find–that I could afford. Thankfully a lot were on sale at Macy’s (Bones & Rags, DKNY, Nautica) but they were not the same fabric, color, style of our Express outfits. I figured as long as they were in seersucker vests we would be okay, but I wasn’t excited about it. Some vests had navy blue stripes, some tan, some thin, some wide, some wrinkly fabric. One word: Headache!!


Our variety of groomsmen attire

I ended up with 6 miscellaneous vests unsure what was going to fit, bought an extra jacket thinking the best man could wear that if the others didn’t work, I found the missing pants at Express after going to three different locations!

The other thing that happened: we planned on Mr. Pashmina wearing the matching jacket so he would be a dressier than the groomsmen, but still matching. He didn’t fit into it! We never tried it on when we first settled on it so we were left to find another suit. Thankfully this wasn’t in July. But still…

In the end everything worked out, but I didn’t know how it was going to look until I was at the aisle! I left it for my groom to figure out.

My Favorite Groom & Groomsmen Styles

I have a hard time figuring out what different styles are out there for my man. What is stylish for men? I may not have enough energy to spend on my clothes to be uber hip, but I know what is stylish and most importantly–what is not–for women. But with guy clothes? Not really. Men’s clothes are all about the details. Subtle pleating can make a huge difference from a modern to dated suit. My fiance has taught me this much. So how does this factor in to contemporary male clothing? I did a series of posts with a more rugged, resort, and indie feel. I am really trying to walk the line of being respectful and conservative versus having a relaxed and casual wedding. I realize I need to take a step back. I really needed to identify what feeling we were going for.

Recently, my man has started to hint that he wouldn’t mind going with a more traditional-classic look. So what exactly is out there? What are the options? So I have set out on a search through Style Me Pretty, Once Wed and 100 Layer Cake. I have found a number of different groom looks that I liked. Here are my favorite traditional groom & groomsmen looks:

#1. Classic black and white tuxedo.

Image from Style Me Pretty

#2. Classic black and white suits with black ties.

Image from Style Me Pretty.

3. Classic black and white tuxedo but with groomsmen wearing colored bowties.

Image from Style Me Pretty.

#4. Groom in black tie with groomsmen in colored ties.

Image from Style Me Pretty.

#5. Groom in suit with jacket, groomsmen in vests.

Image from Once Wed.

#6. Groom in colored shirt, everyone in different patterned tie.

Image from Style Me Pretty.

#7. Groom in lighter colored suit, groomsmen in classic suit. Add sneakers for casual look.

Image from Style Me Pretty.

8. Groom in tie, groomsmen no tie. Both in a light colored suit.

Image from Style Me Pretty.

So what do you think Bohos? If we are going to go a little bit more traditional and classic, which would you choose? I originally compiled this to show to my fiance. This has been the theme of our wedding planning–and perhaps this will be for our wedded life–I compile a list of options and he chooses. I have a secret to making this work…you only show him options you like or could live with or you really are not working it to your full potential 😉

Fine and Dandy

Image from Fine and Dandy Shop

Need groom(smen) ideas? Visit Fine and Dandy Shop blog if you love the Sherlock Holmes look. Being that Sherlock is my favorite literary character, I appreciate the style and wish to see more of the London scene. Truthfully my groom is much too much of a John Wayne than a Beau Brummell. But it doesn’t put a damper on me getting inspiration from this site!

So head on over to check out this dandy site for all things aristocratic in British men’s fashion.